Monthly Archives: July 2011
Happiness should be generated from within. Appreciate the gifts of nature: clouds, green trees, and flowers appreciate the life. That is the mantra of happiness.
1. Positive emotions – like joy, interest, pride and gratitude – don’t just feel good in the moment – they also affect our long term well-being. Research shows that experiencing positive emotions in a 3-to-1 ratio to negative ones leads to a tipping point beyond which we naturally become more resilient to adversity and better able to achieve things. The evidence linking an upbeat outlook to increased longevity is actually stronger than the evidence linking obesity to reduced longevity.
2. Trust is a major determinant of happiness in a society. Levels of trust vary widely between countries. The percentage of people who say “Most people can be trusted” is only 30 per cent of people in the U.K. and U.S., compared to 60 per cent some 40 years ago. But in Scandinavia the level is still over 60 per cent, and these are the happiest countries too.
3. The most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. In every society, family or other close relationships are the most important, followed by relationships at work and the community. The most important internal factor is mental health. For example, if we take 34 year olds, their mental health at age 26 explains four times more of their present happiness than their income does.
4. The subjective levels of happiness which people report are well correlated with objective measures of brain activity. They are well correlated with friends’ reports, with obvious causes (like unemployment) and with subsequent behaviour (like quitting a job or a marriage)
5. Doing good is one of the best ways to feel good. People who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others. When people do good, their brain becomes active in the same reward centre as where they experience other rewards.
6. Empathy is a part of our nature. If a friend suffers an electric shock, it hurts in exactly the same point of the brain as if you yourself suffer an electric shock.
7. Being paid can detract from the pleasure of giving. For example, if people interested in giving blood are divided into two groups, one of which is paid if they give blood and the other is not, more of those who arenotpaid decide to give blood.
8. Studies have shown that giving money away tends to make people happier than spending it on themselves.
9. The proportion of U.S.students who think that it is essential or very important to develop a meaningful philosophy of life has fallen from 65% in the 1960s to 45% today.
10. Surveys of mental health in many countries show no improvement and in some cases worsening. In Britain the proportion of adolescents with emotional or behavioural problems is twice as high as in the 1970s.
11. New psychological therapies like cognitive behavioural therapy can transform lives. Within 4 months a half of people suffering from clinical depression or lifelong anxiety will return to normality.
12. People who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training will on average be 20 percentage points happier one month later than a control group and have better responses in their immune system. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
13. In an experiment, individuals with a positive outlook were less likely to get flu when exposed to the virus.
14. Our happiness influences the people we know and the people they know. Research shows that the happiness of a close contact increases the chance of being happy by 15%. The happiness of a 2nd-degree contact (e.g. friend’s spouse) increases it by 10% and the happiness of a 3rd-degree contact (e.g. friend of a friend of a friend) by 6%.
15. Most people think that if they become successful, then they’ll be happy. But recent discoveries in psychology and neuroscience show that this formula is backward: happiness fuels success, not the other way around. When we’re positive, our brains are more motivated, engaged, creative, energetic, resilient, and productive.
16. People’s happiness can be permanently altered. Surveys show that for many people long periods of unhappiness are followed by long periods of happiness.
17. Happiness follows a U shape across the lifecycle, on average: we are happier when young and old and least happy in middle age.
Feeling of gratitude, feel gratitude for the life-giving sun, for the oxygen-producing trees, for the gift of sight and the mobility of the body. Gratitude is the first and last step of happiness.
Earlier I have discussed the secrets of happiness today I want to discuss the points which are very useful to reduce daily stress strain and anxiety. You may also see the ten secrets of happiness from my personal life. If you follow these points your life will be full of happiness and joy.
1. Laugh. It’s one of the healthiest antidotes to stress. When we laugh, even smile,
blood flow to the brain is increased, endorphins (painkilling hormones that give us a
sense of well being) are released, and levels of stress hormones drop.
2. Get Rid of Anger. It is the single most damaging stress-related personality trait that
precedes a heart attack.
3. Be Decisive. Indecision prevents you from taking action, causing a loss of a sense of
control and thus intensifying stress.
4. Be Assertive. Stand up for your decisions, express your feelings, and disagree with
others when you feel differently, give, as well as accept, compliments.
5. Get Some Sleep. Lack of adequate sleep can make you moody, angry and more
vulnerable to illness and the daily stresses that stalk you.
6. Adapt Your Environment. Color, lighting and noise are all elements that engage and
influence our senses.
7. Encourage Yourself. Negative self-talk is a major stress maker. Those who accept
mishaps as largely routine and normal occurrences in life and who talk to themselves in
positive terms about these events have higher self-esteem and much lower stress
8. Choose Winners. Seek the company of those who are optimistic and have high selfesteem. They tend to have low stress levels and contribute to lower stress levels to
those around them.
9. Reward Yourself. Those who reward themselves by engaging in something
pleasurable realize a boost in the disease-fighting quality of their immune systems for several days. Always do positive thinking.
10. Delegate. Those who don’t learn to delegate become overloaded with unfinished tasks – making them stressed, less productive and isolated by their excessive
11. Don’t Procrastinate . It lessens productivity, not only compounding stress but also
causing the stressful by-products of guilt, anger and low self-esteem.
12. Live by Lists. Having a daily written list of what you expect to do will help you
become more realistic about your schedule and remind you of tasks you do not want to
forget. By listing a task, you also relieve stress by removing the thought from your mind,
which helps to lessen mental overload, a common occurrence in stressed people.
13. Relax. Breathe deeply. Visualize something pleasurable. Meditate. Concentrate on present, tangible situations. Inhale aromatic oils. Listen to soothing music. Om chanting and meditation is a very efficient and easy way to reduce stress.