Kingdom of Love is the kingdom of heaven. When we are in deep love this very earth is the kingdom of heaven. When we are in Love we are happy. Love is not possessing something. It is the freedom of sharing the sweetness of life. It is also sharing the bitterness of Life. When we can share our thoughts, feelings and emotions we are in Love. Jesus said “I will give you the keys to the kingdom of heaven.” -Matthew 16:19 RSV
Love is the key to the kingdom of God. Here, the word Kingdom signifies the inner state of peace love and tranquility. It has nothing to do with the ruling of a King. Here, King is the Love itself. The more we are in Love, the more we are nearer to the Kingdom. Love is the King and our consciousness is the Kingdom.
In the New Testament it is said “Do penance: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand” (Matthew 3:1-2). Penance is a wholly different thing from gospel. Penance has deeper meanings. It is not just doing prayers and the pleasing the God. God will be pleased only when we are in real Love; Love with everyone without discrimination. Here, the word penance means preparing ourselves for the great Love to encompass everything. The word penance means changing the heart – transforming the heart for greater Love. We heard “Rend your heart and not your garments” (Joel 2:13.). Inner transformation is more important than the external ritual and prayers. Inner transformations comes when we are in Love. The abundance of light and grace comes when we are in the path of Love and inner transformation. Our hormones and Divine Love are linked together. The beauty is that Love is the key, when we are in Love we have all hopes. Only Love can transform us. Here are some great quotes on God and Love:
“God is whispering in your heart, in the whole existence, just tune your ears.” — Sri Amit Ray
“God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.” ~St. Augustine
“Keep the joy of loving God in your heart and share this joy with all you meet especially your family. Be holy – let us pray.” — Mother Teresa
“When we turn the mind inwards, God manifests as the inner consciousness.” — Sri Ramana Maharshi
I am going to tell the secrets of happiness that works for me. Now I understand that happiness in married life is a choice. I would like to share it the way it works for me. For me honeymoon started five years after our marriage. Initially, I had problems with my mother-in-law. Her interference often causes problems for me. My wife is affectionate to me. But it took long time for me to understand her. Our true relationships started, when I was away from her for about six months, to do my office jobs in abroad. Then I started direct communication with her over phone. Daily, all most one hour i used to talk to her.
I started sharing with her the joys hopes and dreams. Gradually I know her attitude and values. I do daily exercises with her unknowingly, that helps me deeper understanding and love.
In summary, I can conclude that happiness in married life depends on three important factors. First, the trust on your partner. From beginning you need to keep your trust, if you can’t keep your trust don’t marry. Second, most important thing is keeping the communication line on. Third is understanding the values and the attitudes.
In the office, luckily I worked with a person who is happy with me. I am also happy with the clients for which I am working. But, still I feel there is some worry in my mind about my office work. Few days back I tried my best to discover the reasons for my worry. My findings are as follows:
1. Worrying is my habit. Mind always look something to feel important. I feel if I am not worry about my job, others may think, I am not contributing.
2. I take too less carbohydrates.
Carbohydrates have a tranquilizing effect on the body by stimulating the brain’s production of serotonin. I take too much sugars (candy and other sweets). It get a brief boost in serotonin. But my mood crashes and my craving for sugar become even stronger.
3. I am not exposed to sunlight
Each day I am exposed to artificial light in the office. Serotonin levels are affected by sunlight. During winters I am exposed to less light.
4. My protein intake is high
I also observe that maximum satisfaction comes when I am absorb in my office activities, when I forget myself and lose track of time and stop worrying.
So finally my conclusion for happiness in office are:
1. Take enough carbohydrates.
2. Love your job and try to absorb in it.
3. Take 40gm protein per day.
4. Get exposure to Sunlight
5. Change your habit patterns by meditation.
It worked fantastic for me.
Happiness should be generated from within. Appreciate the gifts of nature: clouds, green trees, and flowers appreciate the life. That is the mantra of happiness.
1. Positive emotions – like joy, interest, pride and gratitude – don’t just feel good in the moment – they also affect our long term well-being. Research shows that experiencing positive emotions in a 3-to-1 ratio to negative ones leads to a tipping point beyond which we naturally become more resilient to adversity and better able to achieve things. The evidence linking an upbeat outlook to increased longevity is actually stronger than the evidence linking obesity to reduced longevity.
2. Trust is a major determinant of happiness in a society. Levels of trust vary widely between countries. The percentage of people who say “Most people can be trusted” is only 30 per cent of people in the U.K. and U.S., compared to 60 per cent some 40 years ago. But in Scandinavia the level is still over 60 per cent, and these are the happiest countries too.
3. The most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. In every society, family or other close relationships are the most important, followed by relationships at work and the community. The most important internal factor is mental health. For example, if we take 34 year olds, their mental health at age 26 explains four times more of their present happiness than their income does.
4. The subjective levels of happiness which people report are well correlated with objective measures of brain activity. They are well correlated with friends’ reports, with obvious causes (like unemployment) and with subsequent behaviour (like quitting a job or a marriage)
5. Doing good is one of the best ways to feel good. People who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others. When people do good, their brain becomes active in the same reward centre as where they experience other rewards.
6. Empathy is a part of our nature. If a friend suffers an electric shock, it hurts in exactly the same point of the brain as if you yourself suffer an electric shock.
7. Being paid can detract from the pleasure of giving. For example, if people interested in giving blood are divided into two groups, one of which is paid if they give blood and the other is not, more of those who arenotpaid decide to give blood.
8. Studies have shown that giving money away tends to make people happier than spending it on themselves.
9. The proportion of U.S.students who think that it is essential or very important to develop a meaningful philosophy of life has fallen from 65% in the 1960s to 45% today.
10. Surveys of mental health in many countries show no improvement and in some cases worsening. In Britain the proportion of adolescents with emotional or behavioural problems is twice as high as in the 1970s.
11. New psychological therapies like cognitive behavioural therapy can transform lives. Within 4 months a half of people suffering from clinical depression or lifelong anxiety will return to normality.
12. People who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training will on average be 20 percentage points happier one month later than a control group and have better responses in their immune system. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
13. In an experiment, individuals with a positive outlook were less likely to get flu when exposed to the virus.
14. Our happiness influences the people we know and the people they know. Research shows that the happiness of a close contact increases the chance of being happy by 15%. The happiness of a 2nd-degree contact (e.g. friend’s spouse) increases it by 10% and the happiness of a 3rd-degree contact (e.g. friend of a friend of a friend) by 6%.
15. Most people think that if they become successful, then they’ll be happy. But recent discoveries in psychology and neuroscience show that this formula is backward: happiness fuels success, not the other way around. When we’re positive, our brains are more motivated, engaged, creative, energetic, resilient, and productive.
16. People’s happiness can be permanently altered. Surveys show that for many people long periods of unhappiness are followed by long periods of happiness.
17. Happiness follows a U shape across the lifecycle, on average: we are happier when young and old and least happy in middle age.
Feeling of gratitude, feel gratitude for the life-giving sun, for the oxygen-producing trees, for the gift of sight and the mobility of the body. Gratitude is the first and last step of happiness.
I want to be happy and I know everyone wants to be happy. To be a happy person, you don’t need to be a spiritual man. When I write something nice for my blog I am happy. When someone praises me or my writings I am happy. When I see number hits are more in my websites, I am happy. When I see lot of smiles around me, I am happy.
Lord Buddha spent his life to search the ways and means to be happy. I am not sure about his way. But his ways looks to me, too difficult. I am happy when I am with my kids. I love them. In office I am happy with my friends.
I have small rose plants. When I spray some water on them, I am happy. I love myself and my family. I love my family members. I love my neighbors. I love the people who work with me. I love to take more responsibility. I love to see every one happy. I love to see you to be happy.
Thanks to my spiritual teacher who taught me how to keep trust on Om, the Universal love energy.